Tag: Family Law

Punishment to the Appropriate Children Age

Almost 70 percent of parents had punished her own child with corporal punishment. In fact, child psychologists strongly discourage such punishment, given that corporal punishment would have a harmful effect on teenagers.

Punishment

Not all ways of punishing children apply at any age. Different ages, different ways of punishing, different effectiveness and impact.

Every time you want to punish a child, try to follow an outline like this: First, first identify the problem he created, then you can explain the impact of his actions.

Once you can take over the mood and attitude of the child, suggest better behavior and deeds. In addition, you can describe the punishment that the child will receive, and say you are expecting better behavior at a later time.

Age 0-3 years with the method “timeout”

Child delinquency behavior common at the age of 2 years and below example is screaming, biting, throwing things, or wasting food. It makes you angry and confused to discipline it. You can punish “timeout”, in children aged 0 to 3 years.

Do a “timeout” by bringing to the room free of items that can distract. Then, make the child sit and calm himself, and you can leave the room for 1-2 minutes. This stage called the reflection stage. After the timeout period ends, hug the child, and promise him not to repeat his behavior. Avoid hitting the child as a form of punishment.

Age 3-7 years: in addition to punish, give also awards

As the child gets older, the more he understands that every behavior they perform has its own consequences. Beforehand, you must determine what punishment your child can get when he does not listen to you. In fact, the timeout method can still be done in the age of toddlers to children like this. Also, make sure not to bring your child into a room with toys or televisions when you want to discipline them.

Discuss what not to do, and after he does not do it, give your child a compliment. Punish the child, its contents are not only punishment but also acknowledge their good behavior.

For example, you can say “Mama is proud of her sister, the sister is already willing to share toys with friends at school.” Usually, this praise is more effective than you are angry and punish the child when he does not want to share the toys. Do not forget to praise the specific words for the good behavior that the child has done.

7-12 years old: avoid punishment while threatening

At the age of stepping on pre-teen years, be careful not to punish the child with a threatening remark. For example, threatening to cancel a vacation, if your child does not do his homework. Unfortunately, with these threats, it is feared the child’s confidence in you will disappear.

Why is that? By doing so, this will cause the unmotivated child to change his behavior because he feels everything has been taken over by you and he cannot do anything about it. It is important to apply consistency to the punishment of child behavior. Make your child believe what you say.

The age of 13 onward

At this age, punish the child we can do by taking away their privileges. Because your child already knows the consequences, he will face behavioral punishment that they should not do. Teenage like this, still need limits and care for your parents.

Determine some of the rules you and your child should discuss first, such as curfews and hours of play, homework to do, and so on. Make a good negotiation about the child’s daily arrangements. Believe it or not, teenagers still need to apply the limits of order in their lives, even as you give them greater freedom and responsibility.

So what if the child broke the rules? You can revoke privileges that children have, such as prohibiting using a laptop or video games for a month. Do not forget to discuss why he broke the rules and how he should behave.…

Factors of Domestic Violence

The phenomenon of domestic violence is almost daily published and present in newspapers, television and radio.  Then the question is why this can happen so easily?

Is this due to the development of modern and sophisticated times or a warning to humans that these are signs of the end times? Many factors make domestic violence, and you should avoid this from happening in your family.

Domestic Violence

Here are some factors.

1. First Domestic Violence is Speak loud and painful

This behavior is very important and absolutely must avoid against all family members. Speaking loud and loud will make the listener hurt otherwise by speaking politely will make your interlocutors become sympathy. Thus it will avoid the misunderstandings that make a strife in your family.

2. Inpatient

The next factor is impatience, because that is the benchmark in which you take action. In family life, we must not separate from mistakes. If you find in your family making a mistake do not occasionally sentence him. Give the person the opportunity to speak to convey his argument. Then give advice or advice with a polite and wise tone so as not to repeat the same mistake.

3. The nature of the ego

The nature of egoism will only encourage your heart to become violent then arrogant and arbitrary behavior arises against others. Keep those traits from your life. Because if the nature of egoism continues to nestle and settle in the hearts of people over time will emerge the types of liver diseases, among others, stubbornness difficult to accept the advice of others, jealousy, revenge, and so forth. Keep those traits from your life.

4. Economics

One incident of domestic violence is an unsound economic factor, in the sense that household life is still unstable. So with such circumstances, there will be disputes in your home every day because of the demands of your spouse or your child you did not meet. So before you live married life should prepare your financial ability to be able to meet the needs of a decent life.

5. Looking for a scapegoat

When you get into big trouble in a job that makes a chaotic mind, do not ever vent into the house because the family members do not know anything. Solve problems in your work and do not jumble into the family. It would be nice if you discuss, maybe your partner has a way out about your problem.

6. There is no democratic culture in the household

In the family, the husband has the duty to be the head of the family but not all things done is true. If the husband is wrong in delivering or doing something, as a wife do not hesitate to justify. Vice versa if the wife is wrong to do something, the obligation of the husband to lead to the right path. With a gentle speech it will be easily accepted by the couple and not to make hurt.

7. Less open in the family

Less open is one of the things that can make the harmony of married life. If you have an outside problem, do not think about it yourself, it will make your load bigger. Communicating about problems received to your partner and finding solutions together will alleviate the burden of your problem.

8. Go out of the house for no reason

In this case, many examples for children are growing and still unstable.  As a parent, you should be stricter in keeping and watching over your sons and daughters when going out of the house. By giving negative and positive directions outside the home, your sons and daughters will think and stay away from the negative things that you forbid.

9. Prejudice

Prejudice against the couple will create a sense of discomfort in the household. This nature will make the mistrust of all things done couple. Being well minded towards your spouse will foster mutual trust in married life and this will add harmony in the family.…